(with a little help from #8)
Is love on your list for 2010?
Best lesson I ever had about love was from my mother.
All she would ever really say about choosing a spouse
was, "If it feels like freedom, do it." Marrying my father felt
like freedom to her. She felt if she married him she would get to do all the things she wanted to do with her life. So that was her perspective.
My second best lesson was from one of my acting teachers
in college. As a young actress, I didn't know that
real love didn't have to be an uber-dramatic drama. Ha! It
still makes me laugh. After watching the senior's production
of "Cat on a Hot Tin Roof" my acting teacher Dr. Daubenas said to the class, "All of this drama, these extreme characters...they are GREAT to play, aren't they?" We all agreed. "But, " he continued, "you don't want to be one of these people in real life." I remember very clearly thinking, "Really? Oh!" Prior to that I'd thought creating that drama in life was the point. Lucky I learned to save the drama for the stage and seek happy relationships. Thank you again, Dr. Daubenas. ;-)
My own story of long-lasting love came with some
feng shui assistance. It's a funny story, but very true.
When I got serious about finding love, I placed a
HUGE silk tree in the relationship corner of my apartment.
It was a little shorter than what I wanted, (so I placed it
on a box to raise it) In the tree I placed two love birds right
next to each other and a big crystal above them all.
Nothing fancy. Simple, typical feng shui cures.
As disappointment and differing priorities were emerging
in "fabulous, exotic relationship" one night the huge tree came tumbling down. I was in another room when I heard the
"crash" and I thought -- "No way." But there it was.
The tree was on the floor and one of the love birds
had flown across the room. One bird was still sitting
very firmly in the tree. The box the tree was sitting on
had collapsed as it was only made of cardboard. I
had intended to put a wooden or ceramic holder there eventually,
but had forgotten about it. Well, that's symbolic, I thought.
Next morning, 7am, I'm on my way to the hardware store
for CEMENT BLOCKS to create a new base for the silk tree.
I know the real feng shui remedy is ceramic, but I wanted cement!
Silk trees don't weigh that much, but my intent was a love that LASTS.
Sure enough "exotic boyfriend" exits stage left and 8 months later,
I'm pretty sure the new boyfriend is "the one". Yep. Thats how it happened.
In today's version of the 9 Life Aspects chart you'll see
aspects #2 and #8 are colored. There's a reason.
Ever notice how when you focus on something too much it
sort of disintegrates? Love can be like that.
Opposite corners on the feng shui chart are the aspects of life
that feed each other. So if you're looking for love, my recommendation
is that you focus a little bit on the Love Aspect (#2) and a whole lot more on the Learning, Spirituality, Knowledge Aspect of your life.
Enhancing your learning about all of the topics that fascinate you and
light you up will take you to new places. And you'll be meeting
new people. And that is how your life changes... how you educate
yourself and the people you meet.
If you're a spiritual person, let your spirituality lead your way for
a while and see what happens.
Does it work? Well, I gave this recommendation to a friend and
since nothing else worked she decided to give it a try. Six
months later she had met Mr. Right and now is married and has
two beautiful bouncing baby boys. She said, "I couldn't believe
focusing on my spirituality would bring me love, but it did."
Another friend had always wanted to make a film, so I sent
her off to a film class in Hollywood. Kinda weird, but that's where
she met her now husband. They were only friends at first,
but after several months, the love emerged and they're doing great.
So yeah, it works.
If you're really ready for a new love in your life, here are a few things
you can do. Be careful though, they really, really work:
- Place plants in the romance corner of your home. (South West corner OR as you stand at your front door, looking into your home - the far right corner is your Love & Partnership corner.)
- Create a little altar to love in that corner. Two candles, Two love birds,
two of other things that say "love" to you. Maybe a photo of an inspiring
couple that you know. Pink is the color for this area, so make your candles pink if you want.
- Make a list of everything you've always wanted to learn about. Then
prioritize that list and find learning opportunities for your top 2 or 3.
- Behave "as if". "As if" is a game that actors play to put themselves
in another's shoes and feel what it is like to be another person. It's also how we prepare before a scene begins, we play "as if" something just happened.
For you, prepare your home "as if" that special person is already in
your life. Sleep on your side of the bed. Be sure your soon-to-be love's side of the bed has a night stand, it's own clock and box of tissues as if
someone was already using it. Two towels in the bathroom and use
only yours. Two places set at dinner even when you're the only one home.
Important to remember: The items you're using in preparing your space do not have any power in and of themselves. The power is YOU becoming clear about what you want and preparing to receive. The items, the talisman's are simply physical reminders of the desires of your heart.
If love is your goal for 2010, give a few of these and let me know if they work for you. I wish you much success.
See you next time!